Postpartum blues can happen to you too. Watch out for signs of baby blues, or depression:

• Feelings of depression, fatigue and anger that surface within a few months of the birth and don’t go away.
• The inability to sleep when tired, or sleeping all the time.
• Feeling helpless and hopeless.
• Having extreme concern worry or total lack of interest in the child.
• Inability to enjoy anything

You and your wife are each other’s mirror during this time. She cannot
see herself, and may not even recognize that she is feeling, or not
feeling a certain way. Just as you bond with your baby bond with your
wife. Be a safe place for her to tell you how she is feeling and just
listen. She isn’t sending out the bat signal needing to be rescued, she
might just be letting it out so that she can move on. Sometimes by
verbalizing a feeling or lack of a feeling she will be able to let it
go. And the same goes for you. (And I talk about ‘this’ and the part
about letting you go out for a beer in the mom part, so she’ll hear
this too!) She can see you better than you see yourself. If she brings
up that you seem detached, sleepy, manic, depressed, listen without
being insulted. At any point in time if you need to talk to someone
else, or worry about the safety of your wife or your baby run don’t
walk. Call for help immediately. Call her OB GYN, your doctor, or
1-888-530-2211 a postpartum depression hotline, or 911.
www.postpartumdepressionhelp.com is a great resource as well. We
will also do our best to connect you with the support you need.